The 3 Important Things Being Abused Can Teach You About Sex
The few good things I gained from this experience
The first time I remember being sexually abused was shortly after my dad passed away. I was ten years old, lasting well into my teens. We had just moved to another area. Across the street from us were two men my father’s age, one of which my mom fell in love with. The other, my abuser. Matthew, my stepfather, is one of the most amazing men I have ever come to know as a human being. Mark, his brother, is still incarcerated for the abuse of a three and five-year-old girl. He being, my abuser.
1. Speak up!
Aside from the obvious, if you’re getting abused, tell someone. With sex, learn to speak up about your likes and dislikes. If you don’t like a certain way you’re being touched, or if it hurts in a particular position, say so. Don’t deteriorate your self-worth and needs just to satisfy somebody else. It’s not worth it. It doesn’t have to be something major, it could be as little as you don’t like your nipples being played with, but you’re afraid to say something because you know your partner enjoys it. But if you don’t enjoy it, why continue? Learning to set boundaries and understand the importance of sticking by those personal boundaries allows you to be more confident and create a more pleasurable…
