There is more to intimacy than just being sexy
Pleasing him in the bedroom isn’t as simple as being sexy. I’d guess most men don’t choose to have intercourse with someone who simply looks hot but has no sexual substance. Men aren’t robots who see nakedness, and that’s it, their good to go! They like being turned on, pleasured a particular way, and expect their partner to attend to their desires as well. Many women/men surmise that a man will be fulfilled as long as they are attractive. That’s not true, and actually quite unfair.
What do men really want?
It’s sexy time, and you’re walking into the bedroom dressed to the nines. He pats the bed to summon you. You lay with him and start fondling each other to the ripe sound of Pink Floyd. You say you have to brush your teeth quickly and run to the bathroom; then you slip on water while brushing and fall into the tub. When you wake up a moment later, he’s standing above you, asking if you’re ok. I hope she’s ok! Did you just hear his thoughts!? Is it the sequel to What Women Want? Called, What Men Want? Unfortunately, we aren’t that lucky. …
Not all men can climax from oral; mine couldn’t until I took the time to get personal
I remember the first time I gave oral to a man. I was confused, excited, and oblivious to the fact that a penis, much like a vagina, is sensitive. I just promptly began sucking and jerking and, from his POV, trying to unfasten it with my mouth. I remember having the assumption that men were primal, and women were emotional. Why does he need to be turned on? All you have to do is touch his penis, and he’s going to get hard, right? Bull-crap. That’s all wrong. …
All writers Welcome!
Yeah, yeah, I know. The cover isn’t that great yet. I’m working on it. However, aside from my sexual advice and tips, I’m including personal stories and advice from my writers.
This is a quick simple article.
If you’d like to be in the dirty little secrets e-book, just comment anywhere in on this article.
All submissions that you would like in the book must be emailed to me @Meghansmadness@yahoo.com
I am not looking for erotica, just personal advice or stories. Each submission must be less than six minutes long. Pictures do not need to be included.
After the e-book is published (I will keep all writers updated), you will get a free copy, your names, medium profile, and whatever personalized link you would like will be included with your submission. …
Learn how to please each other
Sex isn’t a game. It’s a fucking art form, and if you aren’t creative, you aren’t an artist. Too bad. The cool thing about art is it’s personal. You can create your form of sexual art without leaning on the widespread. the nonsense that society deems “sexy.”
Do you have a big dick? A wet pussy? A tight body? So fucking what. That means jack shit. You can be the hottest chick around, or the biggest guy around, and still suck in bed. What do you bring to the table? Because I can make an entire fucking feast full of processed trash food and people will eat, but it doesn’t suffice compared to a homemade meal with authentic flavors, creativity, and substance. The same goes for sex. Beauty only gets you so far. Big dicks only get you so far. …
I wish I knew these when I slept with my boyfriend and best friend
The first time I had a threesome was when I was 16 and madly in love. It was hot at first, but I found myself jealous and indignant afterward. I decided it would be an extraordinary birthday gift if I invited my best friend over, shared a few beers, and shared my boyfriend. It was frightening and stimulating all at the same time. When we were all engaging, I was dazzled. Yet, when he would dismiss my body and tend to hers, I became sickened to the core and angry. …
I get, I am woman, hear me roar! I understand the desire to dress up, smell good, and dance like a cock-hungry Thumbelina, but it’s not needed. Most men could give two fucks about your candy apple red lipstick, your ass smelling like cool cucumbers, or your sexy crotchless panties. Now, don’t get me wrong, all of that is attractive, but here is what trumps all of that. Natural.
Fuck the silk, slip into flannel
Men have fantasies, supergirl, schoolgirl, etc. But set aside all the glitz and glamor and make it simple. Throw on an oversized Teeshirt, boxers, and a bra, or just underwear. Where his flannel, with nothing under it except maybe those crotchless panties. Being all dressed up can be not only intimidating; it also takes away from the natural beauty of our bodies. …
Pleasing a man should be the same as satisfying a woman
When you think of touching a woman, what do you think of? Hit all the hotspots, nipples, Clitoris, thighs, arms, and everything in between. What about a man? His genitals and maybe stroke his face? Perhaps, some back clawing? That’s where most minds go; I’d bet most assume that men are purely physical creatures, and sexual arousal is easily achieved by just focusing on their penis. Now, playing with a mans penis will definitely get him prepped, but we should want him on the brink of explosion – as horny as possible. Men enjoy being aroused in various sensual ways, as well. …
Bring excitement into the bedroom and beyond
The first time I explored this kink was when I was 17; the idea of being tied up and dominated was excruciatingly fascinating. I didn’t quite understand the entire concept; I didn’t realize it wasn’t just a sexual act. I mean, it can be just a bedroom activity, but indulging in a dom and sub relationship as a whole, makes it much more satisfying. Being in a dom/sub relationship means there has to be a solid foundation of trust, acceptance, and a complete understanding of each other’s needs. My first experience was with a man who yearned for my obedience in a cruel and demeaning way. He thirsted for my misery like a virus and refused to care for me in any form of humanity. It was debilitating and damaging. …
At first, I was shy
I was just getting into exploring new sexual adventures, and one thing that drove me into BDSM was spanking. I like pain and enjoy being dominated (by a man; if it’s a woman, I am the dominant one.)
We talked about spanking for a few days, watched spanking porn, and even went out and bought a paddle, and I took pink glitter glue and wrote, bad girl on it. Bring it on! We started the night with a touch of light drinking and humiliation.
“You look like you need dick. Does my little whore need to be filled?”
I love dirty talk, not just love; I sexually thrive on it. Call me a slut and make me tale it. I also love being loved, good ole fashioned romance. But this story is about being dealt with like the bad girl I was, so I’ll leave tenderness out of it. …
It’s not misogyny; it’s science
No doubt men and women are wired differently; we are primarily visibly, mentally, and emotionally diverse. When analyzing the brain of men, studies found that depending on the visual appearance of a woman determined how the man perceived her as a human being. Does this necessarily mean that certain women should be viewed as less then? Certainly not. But science does back the rationality behind the reasoning of why man’s brains function in this manner.
The brain
Our brains mostly see men as whole beings, and women as parts. Yeah, that just sounds unfair, but there is a reason behind it. Science is yet to find if it’s evolutionary or caused by another source – such as the media. Since discovering that some women also view other women in this manner it’s suggested that the media could be the culprit. …
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